Can you be a good mom and a good employee?
Being a single mom and working full-time or even part-time is very difficult to juggle. Stay-at-home moms are judged for not working and bringing home any money. Working moms get judged for not being home enough for their children and have to put the children in daycare or afterschool care just to be able to provide for their families.
What about when your child gets sick? You would have to call out of work in addition to calling out the schools for the children. You cannot miss too many days or you will lose your job, then how will you be able to pay the bills and put food on the table? You then will need to file for unemployment and that can take weeks to process. But you need that money now for rent and utilities. You will have to take some gig work like Instacart, Shipt or Door Dash to name a few. You would also have to consider looking for work that isn’t within your field to stay afloat.
Some moms during or after divorce in order to save money have to move back in with their parents. That was what I had to do to keep from being homeless. It is not always the ideal solution but it works for now while I work on getting back on my feet. While the kids are in school I take some work as a personal shopper or a food delivery driver with Shipt and Door Dash. I am also looking to go back to school as a court reporter.
My point is no matter what the circumstances are as long as you can take care of your kids and give them the love they deserve, we are all good moms. We need to not punish ourselves for our circumstances. We need to create a support system to lean on so we can do what we need to do to survive.